presence and the art of living and dying: doug & walker silsbee

On July 30th 2018 a teacher, mentor, master of his craft and dare I say, friend, left this life. Doug Silsbee was all this and way more. I was invited to interview Doug and his wife Walker in April 2018 as a way of capturing his and their process in this phase of their life. I offer this to the …

creating a success map

Isn’t success something we all strive for or at least wish for? Ever vying to be top dog or at very least the best we can be. Shooting for goals and doing our absolute darndest to get there. As we all know, sometimes we do achieve our goals and sometimes, for all kinds of reasons, we just don’t. Either way, …

why meaning matters

I was at a friends party last night. Lots of fascinating new people to meet. And amongst all the chit chat when that inevitable ice breaker of ‘So what do you do?’ arrived and I (hand-on-heart somewhat reluctantly) volunteered that I work in the domains of Positive Psychology and human potential, what I continue to find interesting is the  predictability …

the extraordinary power of belief

In the fall of 1981 a young Harvard researcher conducted a radical experiment, one which has since become something a landmark in the domain of the extraordinary and transformative power of mind over matter. Ellen J Langer (these days Professor Langer) took a bunch of somewhat decrepit elderly men from a local nursing home and placed them in a New …

the expert’s secret motivation hack

Here psychologist (and Al gore’s former speechwriter) Dan Pink lays down a simple yet highly effective couple of questions that provoke both a sense of deep connection to our own core values, as well as instantly recruit our innermost resources to help bring about lasting change. This process is based on assistant professor at Yale Mike Panatalon’s Instant Influence program. …

motivation 101: the rules of engagement

If there’s a question that just seems to come up time and again for me as a coach it’s one related to the often confusing and vexed domain of what truly gets us up and at ‘em and makes change happen. It’s a conversation which typically runs something like this …   It’s tough, isn’t it? Wanting stuff to happen …

transforming self-limiting belief

Cosied up here on a fancy European intercity train whizzing me through the frosty East European countryside to the next leg of my Xmas vacation, I’ve had a little time to reflect on one of the more salient life lessons I’ve learned over this past week. ‘Til yesterday I was out on the ski fields of the stunningly beautiful south …

finding true love

So there it is. Some four hundred and fifty years spans each of these two quotes but nonetheless the message is clear and consistent – ‘true love conquers all’ and we’ll (natch!) simply recognize that one true love from that very first magic kiss. Ah, destiny. We’re instantly awakened and saved (well you are if you’re a princess!) from an …

is mindfulness always helpful?

Considering the humungous volume of glowing data landing on our doorsteps daily touting the seemingly limitless benefits of mindfulness, plus the fact that I am myself a mindfulness teacher, you may well be asking yourself ‘How is this even a question?’ Yes, mindfulness is unquestionably ‘now’ in more ways than one. But in case you hadn’t noticed, recently the inevitable …

the true predictor of success?

According to current research one of the top predictors of success is a simple yet often overlooked quality somewhat prosaically called grit. Here Angela Lee Duckworth of the University of Pennsylvania lays out her findings from more than a decade of research in what really decides whether we win or not. And while clearly there is much to credit the …